You cannot choose who falls in love with you. You can’t help it. You can’t also choose the time it happens. The place and the how. Be yourself and someone is helpless around you.
It is not your fault you are pretty. You didn’t combine the chromosomes and alleles to have a handsome face. You didn’t give yourself that sweet voice. You didn’t give yourself those skills. You didn’t draw the blueprint for your smile. You didn’t build the mould for your stature and features. You didn’t. You did nothing.
Maybe you’ve enhanced your looks. Maybe you have sharpened your skills. Maybe the gym has brought in a few abs.
But this truth can’t be changed. God did it. God made you beautiful. He always places within each child something awesome and outstanding.
Bezalel is by far the most gifted person of old. Take Esther. She was lovely in form and features. Then Saul. The tallest man in Israel and the most handsome. Then David. He was ruddy with bright eyes.
The world has a standard of beauty. It is way below God’s. You are in God’s class of beauty. A class that has ability to give people day dreams and sleepless night.
It is on and inside you. The way you talk and sing. The way you dress and walk. The way you speak and preach. The way you reason and teach. The way you play. Your passion and determination. Your confidence and faith. These are enough to make people fall for you.
Unless you live on an island alone, people will fall for you. Some will remain secret admirers and never tell.
Others will be too overwhelmed to keep it a secret. She will tell a friend who will whisper into your ears. He will mention it to you one day. Then you smile. You feel special and a kind of elation.
It is a good feeling to know someone is falling for you. It is bad for them if you don’t share the same sentiment. And the Jesus thing to do, is to let them know and move on.
Except we don’t do the Jesus thing. At the end of that good feeling is the urge to exploit. And we do that. We take advantage of the people who by no fault of theirs fall for us. We know we can get them to do anything. We know we can get them to go anywhere. We know we can because they lose themselves around us. And we exploit them for our selfish reasons.
“But I didn’t ask him to buy anything.” You did ask for a phone when you said yours had screen problems. You did ask for wine when you mentioned cravings for sobolo. Or yeah, you didn’t think they would seriously buy it? Well they did.
Because love can make the wise and reasonable do crazy things. It can cause them to make the extreme, look easy and normal to you.
Ask Jacob. So Jacob worked for seven years (fourteen in all) to acquire Rachel. But they seemed like only a few days to him because his love for her was so great. People in love do crazy things.
And they are vulnerable too. It makes it easy to exploit them. Except after exploiting them, one day you’d really have to make them understand the truth. You don’t love them and end it. Or ran away like some do if you aren’t bold enough. For certain, you’d break hearts and shutter dreams. You might give them a new home; psychiatry ward. And while life returns to normal for you, nothing about them becomes normal again.
So save them. Save yourself. What a man sows, he reaps. What we do to people, will be done us in different forms and ways. I know so. And since they too are children of God, He collects their tears. Being a loving Father who fights His children’s battles, I…reserve my comments.
You can’t help who falls in love with you but you can help how you treat them. Don’t exploit them. Be Inspired!
Kwabena Eddie Mankata © 2016